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    The 5 Best Therapies for Those on the Autism Spectrum

    December 11, 2020

    Autism is a mental health disorder that affects both children and adults. It causes people to behave in certain ways and make interaction with others very difficult. While there is no cure for autism, there are treatments that have been shown to help people, including children, improve their social interactions. The following are five of […]

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    The 5 Best Therapies for Those on the Autism Spectrum

    Autism is a mental health disorder that affects both children and adults. It causes people to behave in certain ways and make interaction with others very difficult.

    While there is no cure for autism, there are treatments that have been shown to help people, including children, improve their social interactions.

    The following are five of the best-known therapies for those on the autism spectrum.

    Applied Behavior Analysis

    Applied behavior analysis (ABA) works very well in helping children and adults. The therapy uses a reward system to encourage positive behaviors.

    ABA offers a handful of different treatment options, namely:

    • Discrete trial training
    • Early intensive behavioral intervention
    • Pivotal response training
    • Verbal behavior intervention
    • Positive behavior support

    Our trained therapists will be able to assess your loved one to determine which of these types of ABA may be the most suitable.

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a form of talk therapy that has been effective in treating both kids and adults with autism. Often, certain thought patterns or emotions can trigger negative behavior in someone with autism. CBT helps individuals identify which thoughts and feelings may be the culprit.

    Social Skills Training

    Social skills training (SST) is very helpful in guiding individuals in developing their social skills. Social interaction can be extremely difficult for those on the autism spectrum. But SST can help them learn how to interact with others in a positive and comfortable way.

    Speech Therapy

    Speech therapy is an effective tool for helping people with autism communicate better. Not only will it help children learn how to use words correctly, but it can also help adults improve HOW they communicate their thoughts and feelings.

    Sensory Integration Therapy

    People with autism are often affected by sensory input such as smells, sounds, or light. Sensory integration therapy (SIT) works by controlling an individual’s response to light, sounds, and smells.

    If you would like to explore any of these treatment options for your loved one please get in touch with Aloha Behavioral at 801.399.1818.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.webmd.com/brain/autism/therapies-to-help-with-autism
    • https://www.healthline.com/health/autism-treatment
    • https://www.verywellhealth.com/psychology-as-a-treatment-for-autism-260060

    Filed Under: Autism Tagged With: ABA, Applied Behavior Analysis, autistic, CBT, children, sensory, Sensory Integration, Social Skills, spectrum, Speech, Speech therapy, SST

    Mental Health Therapy for Frontline Workers

    November 6, 2020

    None of us were prepared for the global pandemic we find ourselves in. Not parents, teachers, and certainly not the healthcare workers. Doctors and nurses suddenly found themselves working double shifts to care for sick people. As the rest of the world went into lockdown and people stayed home, safe and sound, these frontline workers […]

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    Mental Health Therapy for Frontline Workers

    None of us were prepared for the global pandemic we find ourselves in. Not parents, teachers, and certainly not the healthcare workers. Doctors and nurses suddenly found themselves working double shifts to care for sick people. As the rest of the world went into lockdown and people stayed home, safe and sound, these frontline workers showed up day after day, putting their health and life on the line.

    Many, in an effort to keep their families safe, found other living arrangements. The idea of possibly exposing their family to something they may have been exposed to at work was too much of a risk, and so many mothers and fathers also had to deal with the stress and sadness of being away from their family during the height of the pandemic.

    While many frontline workers appear stoic, all of this stress and fear took its toll, even on the bravest among us. As a result, many frontline workers have found themselves burnt out and experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety.

    Symptoms of Depression and Anxiety

    It’s common for everyone to feel stressed or sad from time to time. But when certain symptoms linger, you are typically dealing with depression or anxiety. If you’ve never dealt with either before, you may not know the symptoms.

    Symptoms of depression include:

    • A persistent feeling of sadness
    • A lack of energy
    • Feelings of hopelessness
    • Sleep disruption (either sleeping too much or too little)
    • Appetite disruption (eating too much or too little)
    • Difficulty focusing
    • A loss of enjoyment of previous hobbies or activities
    • Thoughts of death or suicide

    Symptoms of anxiety can include:

    • Excessive worry
    • Agitation
    • Restlessness
    • Fatigue
    • Difficulty concentrating
    • Tense muscles
    • Panic attacks
    • Trouble falling or staying asleep
    • Irrational fears

    Is it Time to Seek Therapy?

    For many healthcare workers, all of their time and focus is on how they can help others. The idea of self-care and asking others for help is not something on their radar.

    If you are a healthcare worker that is experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression as a result of COVID, it’s really important that you let someone else help you right now. A therapist can offer strategies that will help you cope with your symptoms and deal with the underlying emotions.

    If you or someone you know would benefit from mental health therapy, please call us at 801.399.1818 to schedule an appointment.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.dailycal.org/2020/06/24/free-therapy-available-to-covid-19-pandemic-front-line-workers/
    • https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2020/medical-providers-covid-stress.html
    • https://psychcentral.com/depression/

    Filed Under: Depression, General Tagged With: anxiety, appetite, COVID-19, depression, exhaustion, fatique, fear, health care worker, hopelessness, insomnia, panic attacks, sadness, therapy, worry

    How to Begin Healing After Personal Trauma

    June 17, 2020

    No one is ever prepared for a tragedy. In fact, most of us go through our lives believing that tragedies happen to other people. When people experience a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, racist attack, the death of a loved one, or an abusive relationship, they often develop extreme anxiety or […]

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    How to Begin Healing After Personal Trauma

    No one is ever prepared for a tragedy. In fact, most of us go through our lives believing that tragedies happen to other people.

    When people experience a distressing or life-threatening event, such as a car accident, natural disaster, racist attack, the death of a loved one, or an abusive relationship, they often develop extreme anxiety or PTSD. Many develop ongoing problems with their personal relationships and their own self-esteem.

    Everyone deals with trauma in their own way. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to respond to a tragic or terrifying event. Don’t let anyone, not even yourself, tell you that you should respond in a certain way.

    Having said that, there are steps you can take to begin to heal and regain control of your life.

    Accept Your Feelings

    Ignoring your feelings of fear, shock, rage, terror, confusion, or guilt will only slow your recovery. In the moment, you may feel you must avoid your emotions. But, whether you accept or push them away, your feelings are real, and feeling them is necessary for healing. The good news is, even intense feelings will pass if you simply allow yourself to feel them.

    Reframe Your Identity

    After experiencing a traumatic event, it is common to feel helpless and out of control. To fully recover from the event, it is important that you eventually reframe your identity and challenge your feelings of helplessness. You can do this by taking action. Being proactive – even in small ways – will help you overcome feelings of fear and helplessness.

    Consider volunteering for a cause that’s important to you. If that is too much of a time commitment, you could simply focus on helping a friend or neighbor. This will help you feel more powerful and in control of your environment.

    Reach Out to Others

    It is common for people to want to withdraw from loved ones and social activities following a tragic event, but connecting with others is necessary for recovery. Though you may not feel up to taking part in huge gatherings like you once did, a simple face to face conversation with a close friend or relative can trigger hormones that relieve stress.

    You needn’t talk about the event with your loved ones, just simply spending time with them will help you feel more “normal.” Of course, if you feel like you need to talk about your feelings, reach out to those you know love and support you. You may also want to look into support groups in your local area so you can be around others who know what you are going through.

    If you have experienced a traumatic event and feel you could use some guidance on your journey back toward peace and joy, please call us at 801.399.1818. Aloha Behavioral Consultants offers experienced and caring providers who treat trauma and PTSD through talk therapy and/or EMDR therapy. You don’t have to suffer with your burden alone.

    Filed Under: Trauma / PTSD Tagged With: abuse, confusion, EMDR, fear, feelings, grief, guilt, helplessness, loneliness, loss, ptsd, rage, shock, support group, therapy, tragedy, triggers

    5 Personal Techniques to Work Through Flashbacks

    June 10, 2020

    Flashbacks are our brain’s way of processing traumatic events that we’ve experienced. But what tends to happen is, our subconscious goes to our storage cabinet to access some important memories regarding the event, and everything sort of tumbles out of the cabinet all at once. This falling out or flashback experience can feel almost as […]

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    5 Personal Techniques to Work Through Flashbacks

    Flashbacks are our brain’s way of processing traumatic events that we’ve experienced. But what tends to happen is, our subconscious goes to our storage cabinet to access some important memories regarding the event, and everything sort of tumbles out of the cabinet all at once. This falling out or flashback experience can feel almost as traumatic as the initial event.

    Flashbacks usually happen without warning. Most result from a “triggering” that occurs by an external experience. Triggers are typically sensory-based experiences that manifest via smells, sounds, tastes, textures that remind the person of the traumatic event. The smell of cologne can remind someone of their perpetrator. The sound of fireworks or a car backfiring can remind a soldier of gunfire.

    Living with flashbacks is very difficult, but there are some ways you can work through these disturbing events:

    1. Remember

    Remind yourself that you are safe and having a flashback. Tell yourself as many times as necessary that these are only memories, the event is in the past, until you can feel yourself begin to calm.

    2. Empower Yourself

    Sometimes using your five senses can help you to be in the present moment. If one sense it causing the flashback – your sense of smell for example – use your other senses to place yourself in the actual current environment. The tactile experience of stamping your feet on the ground can remind yourself that you are free to get away from any situation that has become uncomfortable for you.

    3. Breathe

    As soon as we become fearful or panicked, our breathing becomes shallow and erratic. This only exacerbates the stress we feel in that moment because our body is literally panicking from a lack of oxygen. In these fearful moments, when we slow our breathing and take deeper and deeper breaths, we actually signal to our brain and body that everything is okay.

    4. Honor the Experience

    The initial trauma was awful, so it’s perfectly reasonable for you to want to move on “NOW!” However, you should understand that the body needs to go through this process and experience a full range of emotions. Honor the experience and yourself for having gotten through it.

    5. Find Support

    It’s important that you let loved ones know about your flashbacks so they can help you through the process. You may also want to seek the guidance of a professional mental health therapist who can offer coping strategies.

    If you or a loved one is suffering from traumatic flashbacks and would like to explore treatment options, please contact us at 801.399.1818.

    https://psychcentral.com/lib/coping-with-flashbacks/

    https://blogs.psychcentral.com/after-trauma/2013/11/why-do-flashbacks-happen/

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healing-trauma-s-wounds/201506/understanding-and-working-flashbacks-part-one

    Filed Under: Trauma / PTSD Tagged With: breath work, disturbing, EMDR, flashbacks, processing, ptsd, sensory, trauma, triggers

    How Pets Improve Our Well-Being

    June 2, 2020

    “Dogs have a way of finding the people who need them, and filling an emptiness we didn’t ever know we had.” – Thom Jones For many of us, our home is just a house unless there is something with four legs and a tail sharing the space with us. Our pets are not only cuddly […]

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    How Pets Improve Our Well-Being

    “Dogs have a way of finding the people who need them, and filling an emptiness we didn’t ever know we had.”

    – Thom Jones

    For many of us, our home is just a house unless there is something with four legs and a tail sharing the space with us. Our pets are not only cuddly and cute, they give us unconditional love.

    But it turns out our pets actually offer us more than “just” unconditional love; they seem to also have the ability to help our physical and mental well-being.

    Research has found that the bond we share with our animals can do everything from improve our cardiovascular health to lower our cholesterol and decrease our blood pressure.

    Beyond these physical health benefits, our animal companions can help our mental and emotional life as well. Here are some ways your pet improves your well-being.

    Our Pets Teach Us Mindfulness

    Have you ever just watched your dog or cat find a swath of sun as it streams into your house in the afternoon? They seem to luxuriate in the warmth and energy of the sun in those moments. Nothing else matters to them but enjoying the feeling of the sun on their body.

    Our pets can teach us how to be more mindful and enjoy every moment of our life if we let them. Studies have shown that mindful meditation, which simply means to be fully in the present moment, helps alleviate stress and anxiety.

    Let your pets be an example and try and spend more time just “being” instead of “doing” so much.

    Pets Relieve Stress

    Let’s face it, each of us faces our fair share of stress in life. But research has shown that our dogs and cats act as de-stressors. This is why a growing number of companies such as Atlantic Health System, Mars Inc., Amazon, and Etsy, to name a few, are allowing employees to bring their dog to work.

    College students are a segment of the population that also feels a lot of stress. When the University of British Columbia brought therapy dogs on campus, allowing a group of 246 students to pet and cuddle them, the students reported their stress levels decreased significantly after the interaction.

    Pets Offer Empathy

    There are numerous accounts of war veterans who, when they experience pain and agitation, are comforted by their service dog who will run into the room, somehow sensing their need for empathy.

    Recent findings from the University of Vienna suggest that dogs can sense emotions and even differentiate between good and bad ones. There are numerous reports of cats living in nursing homes, sensing when someone is about to pass and going to lie on their bed.

    The long and short of it is, when we are feeling tired, scared, sad and alone, our pets are there to remind us that we are not alone and that they love us very much. For those of you who have pets, hold them tight and show them your appreciation.

    If you don’t have a pet and are considering the possibility of getting a furry friend, click HERE to learn more about the adoption process and schedule an appointment to meet loving dogs and cats at the Weber County Animal Shelter.

    Filed Under: Wellness Tagged With: anxiety, cats, depression, dogs, empathy, health benefits, lonely, love, mental health, mindfulness, Pets, SAD, stress, stress relief, therapy animals, therapy dogs, well being

    Tips for Coping with Social Isolation

    May 6, 2020

    Humans are social creatures and most don’t do well in isolation. This is why penitentiaries punish prisoners by putting them into solitary confinement. It causes them great mental anguish. Many of us have felt like prisoners in solitary confinement over the last couple of months because of the COVID-19 pandemic and subsequent lockdown. And many […]

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    Tips for Coping with Social Isolation

    Humans are social creatures and most don’t do well in isolation. This is why penitentiaries punish prisoners by putting them into solitary confinement. It causes them great mental anguish.

    Many of us have felt like prisoners in solitary confinement over the last couple of months because of the COVID-19 pandemic and subsequent lockdown. And many of us have been feeling our own mental anguish from this extended isolation.

    Who knows how long this may go on? While none of us have control over what our governments do, we do have control over ourselves and our perceptions of the world. With this in mind, here are some tips for coping with social isolation, for however long it goes on.

    Isolate Yourself from the Media

    If you’re paying attention, it almost seems as if the media is trying to confuse us and cause panic more than report on actual news. Watching too much news doesn’t help anyone’s anxiety levels, so stay informed as best you can but don’t binge-watch.

    Get Creative

    Being isolated can get very boring very quickly so it’s important that you try and get creative with your time. This could mean painting the living room and rearranging the furniture or getting your husband and kids to learn a new language with you. It could mean experimenting with an old recipe or making up a game with your kids. Just have fun and think outside the box!

    Reconnect

    Now is a great time to reconnect with friends and loved ones you haven’t spoken to in a while. Technology like Zoom, Facetime, and Facebook Messenger make it easy to video chat with someone no matter where in the word they are! Schedule a weekly morning coffee date with your friends, send your parents an invitation to catch up and see each other’s faces. Watch a movie together on Zoom with your extended family. It is not the same as being in person, but it really does help!

    Stay Active

    A lot of the anxiety we may feel comes from the fact we aren’t moving our bodies as much as we usually do. It’s important to stay physically active during this time. So get outside and get some sun. Go for a walk or ride your bike. Not only is exercise good for us physically, but physical activity releases endorphins that make us feel good mentally and emotionally as well.

    Meditate

    The world is a chaotic place right now and it seems we are being hit with noise and negativity from all sides. It’s important to make time each day for some quiet meditation.

    If you’ve never meditated before, that’s okay. Just try it.

    One of the easiest ways to meditate is through a listening meditation. Find a space in your house where you can be alone and get into a comfortable position. Close your eyes and breathe deeply in and out… and simply listen to the ambient sounds.

    What do you hear? The buzzing of a light? A fly? Your dog’s collar rattling down the hall as he scratches. Expand your hearing to see what else can you hear outside your house. Birds? Lawnmowers? Traffic?

    Simply breathe and listen intently for 5-10 minutes. When you listen, you can’t think at the same time, and so you will notice finally your thoughts go quiet. This is paradise!

    If you find that the social isolation is really beginning to trouble you and you’d like to speak with someone, please call us today at . We are offering telemental health video therapy sessions.

    SOURCES:

    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/addiction-and-recovery/202003/coping-isolation
    • https://psychcentral.com/blog/quarantine-quandaries-how-to-beat-the-hum-drum-of-isolation/
    • https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/out-the-ooze/201611/the-perils-social-isolation

    Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: anxiety, contact, COVID-19, depression, exercise, isolation, lockdown, loneliness, media over exposure, meditation, quarantine, reconnect, social distancing

    5 Foods to Keep Your Immune System Strong

    April 28, 2020

    As the events of COVID-19 continue to unfold, many of us are focusing on how we can keep ourselves and our families as healthy as possible. While social distancing and increased hand washing can be very effective at stopping the spreading of the Corona virus, it is equally important to keep our immune systems strong. […]

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    5 Foods to Keep Your Immune System Strong

    As the events of COVID-19 continue to unfold, many of us are focusing on how we can keep ourselves and our families as healthy as possible. While social distancing and increased hand washing can be very effective at stopping the spreading of the Corona virus, it is equally important to keep our immune systems strong.

    With this in mind, here are some of the absolute best foods you can eat to help support your immune system:

    1. Blueberries

    Blueberries are loaded with powerful antioxidants. In fact, they contain a type of flavonoid called anthocyanin, which has antioxidant properties that can boost your immune system. A 2016 study found that flavonoids play an essential role in the respiratory tract’s immune defense system. The researchers found that people who ate foods rich in flavonoids were less likely to get sick with respiratory tract infections and the common cold.

    2. Turmeric

    Turmeric is the aromatic spice that makes curry yellow. It is also often used in alternative medicine thanks to its active compound curcumin. Curcumin has been shown to improve a person’s immune response because of its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory effects.

    3. Spinach

    Popeye knew that spinach would help him be stronger. But I wonder if he knew how good it was for his immune system. Spinach contains vitamin C & E, as well as beneficial flavonoids and carotenoids. Not only are vitamin C & E great for the immune system, but research shows flavonoids may help prevent common colds in otherwise healthy people. So, it stands to reason it may help protect against other viruses as well.

    4. Citrus Fruits

    Most of us, when we feel an illness coming on, reach for more vitamin C-rich foods. But what is it about vitamin C specifically that makes it so good for our immune systems?

    Vitamin C is believed to increase the production of white blood cells. These are the cells responsible for attacking foreign invaders like bacteria and viruses.

    Some popular citrus fruits high in vitamin C include:

    • grapefruit
    • oranges
    • tangerines
    • lemons
    • limes
    • clementines

    Unlike other animals whose bodies do produce vitamin C, humans must get their vitamin C from the foods they eat or through supplementation. So be sure to add more citrus fruits to your diet.

    5. Red Bell Peppers

    We can’t talk about vitamin C without mentioning that ounce for ounce, red bell peppers contain even more vitamin C than most citrus fruits. So if you prefer veggies to fruits, then be sure to eat more red bell peppers.

    While this is not an exhaustive list of immune-boosting foods, it will get you started eating right so you can stay healthy during this pandemic. It’s also important to stay hydrated and eliminate sugars and trans fats from your diet as well.


    SOURCES:

    https://www.healthline.com/health/food-nutrition/foods-that-boost-the-immune-system

    https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322412

    Filed Under: Nutrition Tagged With: antioxidant, COVID-19, flavonoid, flavonoids, Health, Healthy Food, Immune system, Super foods, Vitamin C

    A Parent’s Guide to Teen Depression and Suicide

    March 23, 2020

    The statistics on teen suicide are staggering. According to the Centers for Disease Control, each year, an average of 8% of American teens will attempt suicide. This makes suicide the second leading cause of death for kids aged 10 to 24. In fact, it is believed that more teenagers die from suicide than from cancer, pneumonia, birth […]

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    A Parent’s Guide to Teen Depression and Suicide

    The statistics on teen suicide are staggering. According to the Centers for Disease Control, each year, an average of 8% of American teens will attempt suicide. This makes suicide the second leading cause of death for kids aged 10 to 24. In fact, it is believed that more teenagers die from suicide than from cancer, pneumonia, birth defects, AIDS, influenza and heart disease combined.

    Studies have found that teens who have presented with a mood disorder or who abuse drugs are at the greatest risk of attempting suicide. While research suggests girls attempt suicide more often, boys more often die from it.

    Unfortunately, there is still much stigma surrounding depression and suicide, and so often these kids keep their emotional pain to themselves.

    What can parents of teenagers do to keep their children safe and healthy?

    Speak with Your Kid

    Many parents believe that trying to speak with their kids about their moods and feelings will only push them farther away. This is a dangerous misconception. In reality, teenagers need to know they are safe, loved and cared for.

    You may want to begin your conversation by asking general questions about what’s going on in their life. When the time feels right, you can ask if they have ever had thoughts of self-harm. If their answer alarms you, ask specifically if they are planning on or intending to harm themselves.

    Validate Their Feelings

    Once you’ve begun this sensitive dialogue with your teen, it’s important to actively listen and validate their feelings. Your kid must really believe you are a) hearing what they’re telling you and b) recognizing the importance of it. Try and listen without judgement. This will help your child relax and open up, thereby giving you an opportunity to learn even more about their inner emotional life.

    Clarify the Situation

    If your teen confides they are having thoughts of suicide, it’s incredibly important that you remain calm and ask questions that will help you clarify the situation. You will want to determine if they are mentioning suicide because they:

    • Want to tell you just how bad they are feeling.
    • Alert you to something they need but are not getting.
    • Need to vocalize their desire to stop feeling so many emotions.
    • Have actually planned how and when they will take their life.

    Seek Professional Guidance

    Any talk of suicide is a serious matter and requires professional guidance by a trained therapist. It’s important not to force your teen into any treatment plan, but instead, allow them to help direct the course of their plan. Some of their depression might stem from an overall lack of control they feel they have in their own life, so it’s important you let them have a voice in the direction of treatment. You may also find that you will want to speak with someone through this difficult time.

    If you or a loved one is seeking treatment options for a troubled teen, please be in touch. I would be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help your family.

    Filed Under: Parenting, Suicide Tagged With: childhood depression, depression, drug abuse, parenting, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempt, suicide awareness, suicide prevention, Teen depression, teenager depression, teenager suicide

    How to Spot Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    February 27, 2020

    There was a time when the phrase passive-aggressive was rarely uttered among non-psychologists. But it’s a phrase that is mentioned often these days. The problem is, passive-aggressive behavior is almost so common, that it’s hard for people to pinpoint what that behavior looks like exactly. Do you know any passive-aggressive people? Chances are you do. […]

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    How to Spot Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    There was a time when the phrase passive-aggressive was rarely uttered among non-psychologists. But it’s a phrase that is mentioned often these days.

    The problem is, passive-aggressive behavior is almost so common, that it’s hard for people to pinpoint what that behavior looks like exactly.

    Do you know any passive-aggressive people? Chances are you do. But do you know the real behaviors to spot? If not, keep reading to find out.

    They Won’t Say No

    Passive-aggressive people love playing the part of the victim and martyr. Therefore they’ll never just come out and say “no” to something. Instead, they’ll go along with others’ plans and needs, and then sigh, shake their head and roll their eyes because they didn’t get their own way. Do you know anyone like this?

    They are Chronic Complainers

    Every other sentence out of their mouth seems to be some form of complaint. They are usually low-grade complaints as again, they try to consistently mask their real feelings. It’s always a guessing game with these people.

    Backhanded Compliments

    “That dress looks so much better on you than the last one that made your hips look big.” Suppressed resentment is their currency and it tends to come out with backhanded compliments.

    They Sabotage Other’s Efforts

    Do you have a coworker who resents that they weren’t assigned to head your project? Do they show up to work late? Work at a snail’s pace? Take long breaks? When passive-aggressive people don’t get their way, they will throw their brand of a tantrum so everyone suffers.

    They Love Getting a Reaction Out of Others

    If pushing buttons were an Olympic event, the passive-aggressive person would bring home the gold, silver AND bronze medals. Once they know what annoys you, they can’t help but push, push, push.

    They “Accidentally” Withhold Information

    Have you ever had a roommate, colleague or romantic partner take a call that you had been waiting for and then “accidentally” forgot to give you the message? Whoopsie! This is to teach you a lesson: don’t ever ask me to do anything for you again.

    They Appear to be Brilliantly Absent-Minded

    Have you ever known someone who seemed brilliant in so many instances, and yet, in a second, they become the Absent-Minded Professor? They suddenly forgot where they placed the very important documents you need for the board meeting? Or where they put your purse (why did they even touch or move your purse??!!). Again, these are instances of someone who has deep-seated anger and resentment, but who can’t just come forth and confront you in a mature and direct manner.

    Dealing with passive-aggressive people is never fun. But if you know what signs to look for, you can steer clear as much as possible!

    Filed Under: Mental Health Tagged With: anger, backhanded compliments, behavior, complainers, deep seated anger, passive-aggressive, resentment, sabotage, victim

    How to Deal with Loneliness on Valentine’s Day

    February 14, 2020

    Valentine’s day is here (in case you haven’t already noticed by the inundation of hearts, flowers, and candy in stores).  For many people it is a day of celebrating with their spouse or partner and showing them extra love and attention. For others, Valentine’s Day is a depressing reminder that they are single or perhaps […]

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    How to Deal with Loneliness on Valentine’s Day

    Valentine’s day is here (in case you haven’t already noticed by the inundation of hearts, flowers, and candy in stores).  For many people it is a day of celebrating with their spouse or partner and showing them extra love and attention. For others, Valentine’s Day is a depressing reminder that they are single or perhaps grieving the recent loss of a loved one.

    If you are celebrating today alone this year, here are a few ways to have a fulfilling Valentine’s Day.

    Give Yourself a Break

    It’s bad enough to feel lonely, but it’s even worse to scold yourself for doing so. Loneliness is not an indication that you’re doing anything wrong or that there is something wrong and unlovable about you.

    Even people that are in relationships can feel incredibly lonely. Loneliness affects everyone at some point in their life. It’s not a sin to feel this way, so stop scolding yourself.

    Show Your Love for Others

    Valentine’s Day is a holiday to show love. No one says that love must be shown in a romantic way.

    This is a great time to show your affection and appreciation for the wonderful people in your life. Get your best friend a box of chocolates or your mom a bouquet of flowers. Put a card on your neighbor’s windshield and your coworker’s computer monitor. Buy your pet a new toy or treat. Give your child a special treat.

    You can be filled with love by being loved, and you can be filled with love by loving others. The more love YOU show today, the more love you will feel inside. You will be amazed at how the loneliness quickly slips away when you are full of love.

    Don’t let the commercialism of the holiday make you feel alone and isolated. You can have a lovely Valentine’s day if you love yourself and others.

    Take Yourself on a Date

    How many times during the year do you make a real effort to show yourself love? If you’re like most people, you don’t really think much about how you treat yourself.

    This Valentine’s Day, if you find yourself a party of one, try and make the best of it by focusing all of your love and attention on yourself. Take yourself out to a nice dinner. Or, if you don’t like the idea of sitting at a table alone surrounded by couples, then order in your favorite food and watch your favorite movie.

    Take a nice long bath. Listen to your favorite band. Buy yourself a little gift on the way home from work. Use this Valentine’s Day to commit to showing yourself more love and kindness throughout the year.

    Now, go out and snap up some of those delicious chocolates before they are gone!

    Filed Under: Depression Tagged With: calming, healing, holidays, isolation, loneliness, lonely, loss, sadness, self care, Single, Valentine's Day

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